Setting Boundaries

Three Questions to Ask If You Stress Over Other People’s Problems

How often do you internalize other people’s problems, whether by aligning with their emotions or taking actions on their behalf? I have noticed that my stress often relates to what I am thinking (or doing) about someone else’s experience. Or, it could relate to decisions that are theirs, not mine, to make. In other words,…

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Three Questions to Help You Decide Where to Set Boundaries

Do people expect a lot from you?  If you’re reading this article it is likely your answer is yes. Let me also ask you this – do others’ demands on and expectations of you take up an outsized amount of time and energy in your life? Keep in mind that what constitutes outsized differs. The…

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The Imperfect Perfectionist

Do you set impractical standards for the way you handle situations at home, in social settings, or at work?  Do you beat yourself up when you don’t get it totally right?   If yes, then you are likely a perfectionist. The thing is being a perfectionist doesn’t guarantee that you will always get things done faster,…

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Giving Yourself Permission

“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.” -Oscar Wilde   “Selfishness is grossly underrated,” said a friend with two young kids, a demanding legal job, and a husband whose job keeps him on the road. I often hear, from women in particular, that it feels selfish to focus on their own needs.…

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